Lee describes online dating as being like kissing a piece of paper. While Cleveland Yentas has an online form, humans do the matching.  And, we strongly encourage you to meet as soon as possible instead of emailing and texting for a month, like many online dating situations.

Lastly, they have it correct that a man should pay on the first date. However, I’ll add that it is polite for a woman to offer and say “thank you.”

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/10/dating-advice-from-seniors-at-jewish-home_n_6648074.html

In Maxim Magazine’s July/August 2014 “Mind the App” article, the author talked about mobile Apps being the new chat room. He aptly points out that people keep looking to technology (Carrot Dating, Whisper, etc.) as a shortcut for finding a real connection, only to find this is very rarely the case.

Meanwhile, San Francisco seems to be churning out new Apps all the time.  Here is another one: The League. Shown in the New York Times photo attached to an article on the League is a Cleveland native (Melissa Eisenberg).

You can read more about the new Ivy League Dating App here: http://nyti.ms/1JioUk0.

This App seems to be compensating for some of the current issues with App dating, such as instant updates, more hook-ups than relationship development, and no filtering of suggested matches.  The author of this article admits some of the issues with App dating, one being that people try to start a relationship via texting, instead of talking.  These Apps can keep you busy but still make you feel distant from other humans.  Having a personal touch, such as a human (not computer) matchmaker can bring us one step closer to being human.

Cleveland Yentas uses technology, but we still keeps it real:  real humans making matches, strongly encouraging people to talk on the phone, instead of text on it, and having people actually meet face-to-face.

It is a tough dating world out there; Cleveland Yentas would like to help.

Check out some of these events to be social and create more opportunities to meet and be with other Jews…for dating or just friendship.

JCLE’s Happy Hour at Hofbrauhaust on Thursday, January 29th form 7-9

https://www.facebook.com/events/835989649818314/?ref_dashboard_filter=upcoming

Sign up for Birthright (Registration opens February 3rd)  http://www.jewishcleveland.org/news/event_rsvp/birthright/

Attend the Kabbalistic Tu B’Shevat Seder for Adults

Tuesday, February 3rd

7 pm at B’nai Jeshurun Congregation

$5 per person; RSVP to 216-831-6555

https://www.facebook.com/events/1599444816941445/?source=1

Rock My Soul Shabbat at The Temple – February 13th at 7:30pm

Trivia Night at Park Synagogue East – February 28th at 7:30pm

More Info: http://parksynagogue.yolasite.com/resources/trivianight_web.pdf

Registration: http://parksynagogue.yolasite.com/trivia-night.php

The first one is something I have perviously discussed.  If you are married to your job, you will not have time or energy for a relationship that could lead to a real marriage.  Make sure your job is not your entire life if you are looking to have more.

Donating your time will prepare you for giving to your partner in a relationship.  Visiting your grandparent or someone else’s grandparent will also create a habit of giving.  Gestures of time or emotion are often more appreciate than purchased gifts.

Talking with a cabdriver, or in Cleveland more likely a waitress or cashier, reminds you of the value of every human being.  This will help put you in the right mindset to value your partner as more than just a physical creature.

Listening is the last of the highlights.  I’ll say it here and I will probably say it again…no relationship if perfect.  If you are looking for a relationship in which there is no disagreement, you are not being realistic.  A good relationship should not be measured by whether or not you disagree/argue/fight, but how you do it.  In the end listening is key to communicating and communication is key to a healthy relationship.

So, if what you have been doing to try to find your match is not working, try something new.

1) “Funky or very informal spelling”

2) “Multiple exclamation points in chat messages”

3) “Lack of punctuation and grammar”

Here were their “Digital Turn Offs for Women”:

1) “Funky or very informal spelling”

2) “Lack of punctuation and grammar”

3) “Excessive slang”

Maybe men and women are not so different.

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/a6774/reasons-you-havent-met-his-friends/

http://www.nickmom.com/videos/things-you-can-t-do-when-you-re-not-online/

http://www.tabletmag.com/jewish-life-and-religion/135213/jewish-summer-camp-1980s?

http://pulptastic.com/24-real-life-habits-actual-couples/